Why Discipline?

TO UPHOLD INTEGRITY

Proverbs 11:3, 5—“The integrity of the upright guides them, but the unfaithful are destroyed by

their duplicity. The righteousness of the blameless makes their paths straight, but the wicked are

brought down by their own wickedness.”

TO FIND HONOR

Proverbs 13:18—“Whoever disregards discipline comes to poverty and shame, but whoever heeds

correction is honored.”

BECAUSE YOU LOVE THEM

Proverbs 13:24—“Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their

children is careful to discipline them.”

TO KEEP SHAME FROM PARENTS

Proverbs 19:26—“Whoever robs their father and drives out their mother is a child who brings

shame and disgrace.”

AWARE OF ACTIONS

Proverbs 20:11—“Even small children are known by their actions, so is their conduct really pure

and upright?”

TO GET RID OF EVIL

Proverbs 20:30—“Blows and wounds scrub away evil, and beatings purge the inmost being.”

TO TRAIN THEM UP IN THE RIGHT WAY

Proverbs 22:6—“Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will

not turn from it.”

TO DRIVE OUT FOOLISHNESS

Proverbs 22:15—“Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far

away.”

BECAUSE IT IS COMMANDED

Proverbs 23:13—“Do not withhold punishment from a child; if you punish them with the rod, they

will not die.”

TO DELIVER THE CHILD’S SOUL FROM HELL

Proverbs 23:14—“Punish them with the rod and save them from death.”

FOR PROPER WISDOM

Proverbs 29:15—“A rod and a reprimand impart wisdom, but a child left undisciplined disgraces

his mother.”

What wrong acts should be disciplined?

GOSSIP & LYING

Proverbs 4:24—“Keep your mouth free of perversity; keep correct talk far from your lips.”

PURPOSEFUL DISOBEDIENCE/HATCHING EVIL PLOTS

Proverbs 6:18—“A heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are quick to rush into evil….”

JEALOUSY

Proverbs 6:34—“For jealousy arouses a man’s fury, and he will show no mercy when he takes

revenge.”

HATRED & FIGHTING

Proverbs 10:12—“Hatred stirs up conflict, but love covers over all wrongs.”

BAD LANGUAGE

Proverbs 10:31—“From the mouth of the righteous comes the fruit of wisdom, but a perverse

tongue will be silences.”

EVIL TALK

Proverbs 11:11—“Through the blessing of the upright a city is exalted, but by the mouth of the

wicked it is destroyed.”

CRUELTY TO OTHERS

Proverbs 11:17b—“…but the cruel bring ruin on themselves.”

DECEIT

Proverbs 12:20—“Deceit is in the hearts of those who plot evil, but those who promote peace have

joy.”

LYING

Proverbs 12:22—“The Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in people who are trustworthy.”

ARROGANCE & PRIDE

Proverbs 15:25—“The Lord tears down the house of the proud, but he sets the widow’s boundary

stones in place.”

SHIFTY EYES & STUBBORNESS

Proverbs 16:30—“Whoever winks with their eye is plotting perversity; whoever pursues their lips

is bent on evil.”

QUARRELLING

Proverbs 17:19—“Whoever loves a quarrel loves sin; whoever builds a high gate invites

destruction.”

HASTE MAKING WASTE

Proverbs 19:2b—“Desire without knowledge is not good—how much more will hasty feet miss the

way!”

ANGER

Proverbs 19:19—“A hot-tempered person must pay the penalty; rescue them, and you will have to

do it again.”

Proverbs 29:22—“An angry person stirs up conflict, and a hot-tempered person commits many

sins.”

FIGHTING & QUARELLING

Proverbs 20:3—“It is to one’s honor to avoid strife, but every fool is quick to quarrel.

GOSSIPING

Proverbs 20:19—“A gossip betrays a confidence; so avoid anyone who talks too much.”

Proverbs 26:22—“The words of gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to the inmost parts.”

CURSING

Proverbs 20:20—“If someone curses their father or mother, their lamp will be snuffed out in pitch

darkness.”

Proverbs 30:17—“The eye that mocks a father, that scorns an aged mother.”

DRINKING

Proverbs 23:31—“Do not gaze at wine when it is red, when it sparkles in the cup, when it goes down

smoothly!”

MOCKING

Proverbs 24:9—“The schemes of folly are sin, and people detest a mocker.”

VENGEANCE

Proverbs 24:29—“Do not say, ‘I’ll do to them as they have done to me; I’ll pay them back for what

they did.”

STEALING FROM PARENTS

Proverbs 28:24—“Whoever robs their father or mother and says, ‘It’s not wrong,’ is partner to one

who destroys.”

By what means should discipline be administered?

INSTRUCTION

Proverbs 1:8—“Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do forsake your mother’s teaching.”

CHASTISEMENT

Proverbs 3:11—“My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline, and do not resent his rebuke.”

COUNSEL

Proverbs 11:14—“For a lack of guidance a nation falls, but victory is won through many advisors.”

ROD

Proverbs 13:24—“Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their

children is careful to discipline them.

ENCOURAGEMENT

Proverbs 16:21—“The wise in heart are called discerning, and gracious words promote

instructions.”

REPROOF

Proverbs 17:10—“A rebuke impresses a discerning person more than a hundred lashes a fool.”

CASTING LOTS

Proverbs 18:18—“Casting lots settles disputes and keeps strong opponents apart.”

INSTRUCTION, WARNING

Proverbs 19:27—“Stop listening to instruction, my son, and you will stray from the words of

knowledge.”

Proverbs 22:15—“Have I not written thirty sayings for you, sayings of counsel and knowledge.”

EXAMPLE

Proverbs 23:26—“My son, give me your heart and let your eyes delight in my ways.”

FACIAL EXPRESSIONS

Proverbs 25:23—“Like a north wind that brings unexpected rain is a sly tongue—which provokes a

horrified look.”

REBUKE

Proverbs 27:5—“Better is open rebuke than hidden love.”

What are the goals of self-discipline?

 Children should be taught to:

FEAR GOD

Proverbs 1:7—“The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and

instruction.”

Proverbs 10:27—“The fear of the Lord adds length to life, but the years of the wicked are cut short.

AVOID TEMPTATION

Proverbs 1:15—“My son, do not go along with them, do not set food on their paths;”

HEED WISE INSTRUCTION

Proverbs 1:33—“Whoever listens to me will live in safety and be at ease, without fear of harm.”

TRUST IN GOD

Proverbs 3:5– “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.”

GIVE GOD THE BEST FIRST

Proverbs 3:9—“Honor the Lord with your wealth, with the first fruits of all your crops; then your

barns will be filled to overflowing, and your vats will brim with new wine.”

BE GENEROUS

Proverbs 3:27—“Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in your power to

act.”

BE DILIGENT

Proverbs 4:4—“Lazy hands make for poverty, but diligent hands bring wealth.”

BE HONEST

Proverbs 10:6—“Blessings crown the head of the righteous, but violence overwhelms the mouth of

the wicked.”

Proverbs 11:1—“The Lord detests dishonest scales, but accurate weights find favor with him.”

Proverbs 24:26—“An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips.”

CHOOSE THEIR FRIENDS WISELY

Proverbs 22:24-25—“Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one

easily ensnared, or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared.”

 Children should be taught NOT to:

LIE

Proverbs 6:19—“A false witness who pours out lies and a person who stirs up conflict in the

community.”

Proverbs 25:18—“Like a club or a sward or a sharp arrow is one who gives false testimony against a

neighbor.”

FLIRT

Proverbs 10:10—“Whoever winks maliciously causes grief, and a chattering fool comes to ruin.”

GOSSIP

Proverbs 11:13—“A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy person keeps a secret.”

BE PROUD

Proverbs 16:5—“The Lord detests all the proud of heart. Be sure of this: They will not go

unpunished.”

BE REBELLIOUS

Proverbs 17:11—“Better a dry crust with peace and quiet than a house full of feasting, with strife.”

HAVE BAD FRIENDS

Proverbs 22:24—“Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one

easily ensnared.”

QUIT

Proverbs 24:10—“If you falter in a time of trouble, how small is your strength.”

ENVY

Proverbs 24:19—“Do not fret because of evildoers or be envious of the wicked.

BE JEALOUS

Proverbs 24:19—“Do not fret because of evildoers or be envious of the wicked.

BE LAZY

Proverbs 18:9—“One who is slack in his work is brother to one who destroys.”

LIE

Proverbs 6:19—“A false witness who pours out lies and a person who stirs up conflict in the

community.”

Proverbs 25:18—“Like a club or a sword or a sharp arrow is one who gives false testimony against a

neighbor.”

HAVE BAD FRIENDS

Proverbs 22:24—“Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one

easily ensnared.”

What are the proper attitudes of the disciplinarian?

DISCERNMENT

Proverbs 28:2b—“But a ruler with discernment and knowledge maintains order.”

IMPARTIALITY

Proverbs 28:21a—“To show partiality is not good—“

WISDOM

Proverbs 29:15—“A rod and reprimand impart wisdom, but a child left undisciplined disgraces its

mother.”

CONSISTENCY

Proverbs 29:17—“Discipline your children and they will give you peace; they will bring you the

delights you desire.”

COMPASSION

Proverbs 31:9—“Speak up and judge fairly; defend the rights of the poor and needy.”

CALM VOICE

Proverbs 15:1-2—“A gentle answer turn away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. The tongue of

the wise commends knowledge, but the mouth of the fool gushes folly.”

PATIENCE

Proverbs 25:15—“With patience a ruler may be persuaded, and a soft tongue will break a bone.”

What are the proper and improper attitudes of the disciplined?

 Proper Attitudes

LISTENING EARS

Proverbs 4:21—“My son, pay attention to what I say; turn your ear to my words.”

CONCENTRATION WHEN GIVEN INSTRUCTION

Proverbs 4:22—“Do not let them out of your sight, keep them within your heart.”

IGNORE DISTRACTIONS—FOCUS

Proverbs 4:25—“Let your eyes look straight ahead; fix your gaze directly before you.”

ACCEPTING CRITICISM

Proverbs 9:8-9—“Do not reprove a scoffer, or he will hate you, Reprove a wise man and he will love

you. Give instructions to a wise man and he will be still wiser.”

HONESTY

Proverbs 12:17 & 19— “A truthful witness gives honest testimony, but a false witness tells lies.

Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue lasts only a moment.”

CHEERFUL ATTITUDE

Proverbs 15:30—“A cheerful look brings joy to the heart, and good news gives health to the bones.”

COMMITMENT TO GOD

Proverbs 16:3—“Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and your plans will succeed.”

RESPECTFUL OBEDIENCE

Proverbs 28:7—“A discerning son heeds instruction, but a companion of gluttons disgraces his

father.”

SELF-CONTROL

Proverbs 29:11—“A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keep himself under control.”

 Improper Attitudes

ARROGANCE

Proverbs 8:13—“To fear the Lord is to hate evil; I hate pride and arrogance, evil behavior and

perverse speech.”

DISHONESTY

Proverbs 12:17 & 19— “A truthful witness gives honest testimony, but a false witness tells lies.

Truthful lips endure forever, but a lying tongue lasts only a moment.”

PRIDE

Proverbs 16:5—“The Lord detests all the proud of heart. Be sure of this: They will not go

unpunished.”

Proverbs 16:18—“Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall.”

REBELLION

Proverbs 17:11—“A rebellious man seeks only evil, so a cruel messenger will be sent against him.”

HASTY DECISIONS

Proverbs 19:2—“It is not good to have zeal without knowledge, nor be hasty and miss the way.”

BOASTFUL SPIRIT

Proverbs 27:1-2—“Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring forth.

Let another praise you, and not your own mouth; someone else, and not your own lips.”

ANGER

Proverbs 29:11—“A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keep himself under control.”

What does Proverbs promise the disciplined individual?

UNDERSTANDING THE FEAR OF THE LORD

Proverbs 2:1-5—“My son if you accept my words and store up my commands within you, turning

your ear to wisdom and applying your heart to understanding—indeed, if you call out for insight

and cry aloud for understanding, and if you look for it as for silver and search for it as for hidden

treasure, then you will understand the fear of the Lord.

KNOWLEDGE & UNDERSTANDING

Proverbs 2:6—“For the Lord gives wisdom; from his mouth come knowledge and understanding.”

SUCCESS

Proverbs 2:7—“He holds success in store for the upright, he is a shield to those whose walk is

blameless.”

PROTECTION

Proverbs 2:11—“Discretion will protect you, and understanding will guard you.

BLESSED LIFE

Proverbs 3:13-14— “Blessed are those who find wisdom, those who gain understanding, for she is

more profitable than silver and yields better returns than gold.”

RESPECT FROM OTHERS

Proverbs 3:35—“The wise inherit honor, but fools get only shame.”

LONG LIFE

Proverbs 4:10—“Listen, my son, accept what I say, and the years of your life will be many.”